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How to Make Divorce Easier on Your Children

Posted on in Divorce

Hinsdale divorce attorney child issuesDivorce is nothing new in the United States. In fact, the first recorded divorce in the American colonies occurred in 1643, when Ann Clarke was granted a divorce from Dennis Clarke by the Quarter Court of Boston, Mass. 

Nearly four centuries and millions of divorces later, the divorce process can still take a significant emotional and physical toll on divorcing couples and their children. This is especially true in high-conflict divorces in which couples cannot reach agreements on their own and must go through divorce litigation.

You do not have to like your soon-to-be ex-spouse, but allowing your animosities to overflow to where it severely impacts your children can lead to issues that last a lifetime. Here are some preventative measures you can take to protect your children from the contentious nature of your impending divorce:

Keep Child Visitation Exchanges Brief and Civil

When involved in combative divorce proceedings, child exchanges can devolve into a nightmarish scene in moments. Regardless of whether it is an at-home drop-off or at a neutral setting, utilize calming methods such as deep breathing to contain your emotions. Always arrive on time, and do not lose control if your ex-spouse shows up late. If it is best to stay in your vehicle or home during an exchange, do so.

Avoid Text Message, Email, or Phone Arguments

If you cannot communicate with your ex without confrontation and bickering, do not engage with them. Your children could hear you say things over the phone you will one day regret, and profane text or email exchanges may be used to paint you in a negative light in court. While these strong emotions will hopefully get better over time, if the situation is combustible right now, use another method. Consider using a scheduling app to plan all custodial and co-parenting arrangements.

Do Not Take Your Grievances to Social Media

No divorce will go better by airing dirty laundry on Facebook or elsewhere online. This is doubly problematic if you have kids with access to the internet and social media via their phone or computer. You may wish to unfollow or block your ex-spouse and their family members or perhaps take a break from social media altogether until things stabilize. No matter what, do not attack your ex publicly.

Contact an Elmhurst Divorce Attorney

Volatile divorces require experienced and adept legal representation. At Wakenight and Associates, P.C., we understand the multitude of emotions and difficulties involved in high-conflict divorces. Let us calmly guide you through the process while we aggressively pursue the divorce settlement that will meet your family’s needs. Contact a skilled Oak Brook divorce lawyer at 630-528-0734 for a free consultation.


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